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Monday, April 18, 2016
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Like so many first time parents, I spent a lot of my pregnancy researching and preparing for this new adventure in our lives. I knew even before I got pregnant that I wanted to include babywearing; a friend had worn her babies and it just made so much sense to me. When Graham arrived, he was all about being held of course, but was less into being worn. He really wanted to see the world, and got very angry when he couldn’t see. In desperation one day when he was around 2 or 3 months, I dug out the Bjorn Original we had received as a gift. Since he had good head control we gave it a shot, and he was SO happy to see what was going on.
I wanted to learn to wrap, though Graham had zero tolerance for front wrap cross carry or any other front wrapping. I was not skilled or brave enough to try back wrapping yet, and he let me know hip carries were also not ok. I tried all of the typical things – give him time to adapt, walk around, etc., but he just got more and more angry when I wore facing in. So, I learned how to wrap him facing forward, in a modified Robin’s hip carry. He was happy, and I could learn some wrapping skills.
I had read that forward facing was “bad” for my baby, but my experience showed me otherwise. And really, despite what you may have heard or read, forward facing is perfectly fine as long as you are safe about it – more on this later. We faced some discouragement, mainly in online forums – I had the lists of why forward facing is bad for your baby linked for me many times. I was careful – it was never for extended periods of time, I trusted my mama instincts to know if he needed a break, and in general we were wearing in fairly calm environments. Mostly we wore around the house, and on our daily walks with our dogs in the woods. I educated myself as best as possible, and want to share what I learned.
So what did I learn? Well, as always with a kid, first and foremost is their safety and comfort. The most important thing to keep in mind when forward facing is protecting baby’s airway. Good head control is key, and the babies I’ve come across that prefer forward facing tend to make that preference known pretty young, so it can get a little frustrating waiting for them to be strong enough. A good milestone to use as a gauge is for baby to be able to push up during tummy time and look side to side. If they can do that without falling, they can hold their head up well enough to forward face. Usually baby will be pretty involved with watching what’s going on, but if they do get sleepy, you definitely need to turn them to face inward. We all get relaxed when we fall asleep, and it’s very likely baby’s head will flop forward – clearly a bad position for breathing well. So, turn them around when they’re still awake so they can rest against your chest.
Overstimulation is often cited as a concern for forward facing. Too much stimulation is very stressful for a baby, especially when they are young. For me though, Graham made it as clear as he could that he wanted to see what was going on. I didn’t take him anywhere incredibly busy, mostly just at home or walking the dogs. He was still close to me, closer than he would have been in a stroller. While I haven’t been able to find research on forward facing babywearing, there has been research into babies interacting with other people, as well as using forward facing strollers. It has been shown to be best for babies to be facing their caregivers as much as possible. I kept this in mind, and we never wore forward facing for more than about 30 minutes. Most will recommend 10-15 minutes. We also spent a lot of time interacting in other parts of life, and he’s always been very social. It is important to keep in mind though that your baby can not see you and read your cues as well when they are facing away from you, so you need to be extra aware of them and check in constantly to know how they are doing.
Comfort is a factor for you both, as in any babywearing. Narrow based carriers have unfortunately developed a bad reputation, but if your baby has healthy hips they are completely safe. I don’t know that I would want to sit that way personally, but I did use one with Graham and he didn’t seem to mind. After all, babies are pretty good at letting you know if they aren’t comfortable. If your baby does have hip dysplasia or other joint or muscle tone issues, you should definitely talk to your doctor or physical therapist about the best way to wear your baby. Otherwise, you can use many different types of carriers to face forward - just be sure that the carriers are meant to do so safely.
So, which carrier is best? Just like any babywearing, the best carrier is what works for you and your baby. Factors include cost, convenience, comfort, and learning curve. I’ll cover all of these for a variety of carriers below. If your baby wants to face forward, and you want to wear them, there is a way to do it!
You can forward face in both a stretchy wrap and a woven wrap, and there are a few ways to use a woven wrap too depending on what size you have.
Stretchy wraps like Moby, Boba, or other stretchy wraps are commonly used for newborns. They are pretty affordable, often found used for $10-$30, or new for around $40-50. They do tend to get less comfortable for the wearer when baby gets to be around 15lbs, since they do stretch. In terms of convenience, they can take a bit of time to learn to use well, but can be pre-tied (for either inward or forward facing) and you can take baby in and out throughout the day. Facing baby forward can be done with the same pre-tie as facing inwards, the Pocket Wrap Cross Carry (PWCC). Here’s a video of how to face forward with a stretchy wrap:
Forward facing in a Stretchy Wrap.
Woven wraps can be used a couple different ways to forward face. Their cost is widely variable, depending on brand, fibers used, and other factors, but there are options for most budgets, from around $75 or so up to as much as you want to spend. I have made videos for two ways to forward face, one that is very similar to the stretchy wrap Pocket Wrap Cross Carry: Forward facing PWCC in a woven wrap, and the other that is sort of like using a ring sling: Robin’s hip carry modified for forward facing. For the PWCC, you can use your base size, and for the Robin’s you can use your base size – 2, (so a 4 if your base is a 6), and also can use a longer wrap easily too. PWCC is a narrow based carry, where your baby’s legs will hang down, but the Robin’s is a “Buddha” carry, where your baby will be sitting with their legs folded in a sort of pouch. Check out the videos for more clarity on that!
Forward Facing Pocket Wrap Cross Carry in a Woven Wrap
Robin's Hip Carry Modified for Forward Facing
Ring slings are also available in a huge variety of fabrics, patterns, and colors. There is a variety in shoulder style, too – gathered and pleated are most common, but there are others including padded, which is what I use in my video. As with wraps, cost varies a lot, but you can usually find a good one in the $50-$100 range. They have less of a learning curve than wraps, and are also useful for a variety of ages from newborn to toddler. You’ll use them differently as your baby ages – 30lbs does not feel great on one shoulder for long, but toddlers often want up and down quickly and ring slings are great for that. For forward facing, you’ll again be making a sort of pouch, and putting your baby in on their bum with their legs crossed in front of them Buddha style. The video will clear that up a bit for you:
Forward facing in a Ring Sling.
There are a couple mei tais that allow forward facing. The CatBird Baby mei tai and Infantino Wrap and Tie are readily available mei tais that allow forward facing. They both come with built in ways to cinch the bottom of the body panel and make it narrower, which is what makes it more comfortable for your baby to sit facing forward. The Infantino is under $40 new, and relatively easy to learn to use, and the CatBird baby is under $100. Mei tais do take some practice to get adjusted well and tied tightly, but the learning curve is definitely shorter than for wrapping. It’s also a two shouldered carrier and carry, so some wearers may prefer that to one-shouldered options like ring slings. Mei Tais are also very adjustable for anyone to use. Most mei tais are not advertised as forward facing compatible, but the Wrap and Tie is, as is the CatBird Baby mei tai. Here’s a video:
Forward facing in a mei tai.
Soft Structured Carriers, or SSCs, come in a huge variety of designs. For the most part, the basic concept is the same – they are often called buckle carriers because they buckle around your waist and have shoulder straps that buckle together to hold it on. They are similar to a sturdy backpack, and are usually pretty quick to learn to use, and also quick to put on and off. They have probably the lowest learning curve of the group, but the tradeoff is that you have to find the design that is most comfortable for you. Each brand has a different amount of padding, differently shaped shoulder straps, different buckle placement, etc. Once you find what works for you and your baby though, they are very comfortable and convenient. They come at a variety of price points; there are budget options available around $50, many options at around $100-$150, and there are some that cost more depending on what you’re looking for.
Not all SSCs allow forward facing. I will briefly cover some of the more common ones, but there are some others out there.
Baby Bjorn has a few options. There is the original Bjorn carrier, the very similar Bjorn Active, and more recently the Bjorn One. Neither the Original or Active have waist bands, which can make them a bit less comfortable for the wearer as baby gets larger, but the One does have a waistband. They are all a little different than most SSCs in the design, and take a little time to get familiar with how they are used, but once you spend some time practicing they are easy to use.
Forward Facing in a Bjorn Original
Forward Facing in a Bjorn One
Forward Fcaing in an Ergo 360
Forward Facing in a Lillebaby
The Beco Gemini also allows forward facing or newborn wearing with a quick adjustment at the panel base. They have flaps that unsnap and re-snap into a narrower position.
Forward Facing in a Beco Gemini
This list is not exhaustive, mainly for SSCs, but it does cover the variety of options available for forward facing.
However you choose to carry your baby, there are a few things I like to keep in mind beyond the basic safety. You know your baby best, and babies (and kids) tend to let you know if they’re unhappy. If your baby wants to face forward, they will let you know. And if they like the carrier you’ve chosen, you will be able to tell. It might take a little trial and error, but the feeling of holding your baby close paired with the freedom to move around and experience the world together is worth every second.
My husband, Eric and his little helper Graham
This amazing blog post was written by educator Kate Krengel as her project toward her advancement into Advanced Babywearing Educator (ABE) Status. Thank you Kate for your knowledge and insight! Our chapter is lucky to have you.